The Supermom Lie: And Why Lazy Motherhood Is the Truth We Need

We’ve all seen her.

The mom who has it all together —organized home, packed lunches, neatly dressed kids, thriving career, perfect Instagram grid, and somehow still finds time to bake banana bread and train for a marathon.

We admire her.

Sometimes, we resent her.

Mostly, we compare ourselves to her — and wonder if we’re failing.

This is the Supermom lie:

That the only way to be a good mom is to be an everything mom.

All the time. With a smile. Without needing help. Without slowing down.

Where the Lie Began

The Supermom myth didn’t come from one place —It came from everywhere. It came from social media. From silent generations who modeled sacrifice as love. From systems that expect mothers to be full-time caretakers and full-time earners. From narratives that glorify exhaustion, overextension, and perfection as the standard for motherhood.

It’s sneaky. Because it often looks like ambition or dedication — but really, it’s shame in disguise.

The Cost of the Supermom Lie

Trying to be Supermom leaves us:

• Burned out

• Emotionally depleted

• Resentful

• Disconnected from ourselves

• And still, somehow, not enough in our own eyes

It teaches us that more is better. That rest is weakness. That asking for help is failure. That motherhood is a performance, not a relationship. And the worst part? It disconnects us from the actual people we’re trying so hard to love — our children, our partners, and ourselves.

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Lazy Motherhood Is the Antidote

Here’s what the Lazy Mom chooses instead:

• She does less, but she means it.

She focuses on what matters most, not what looks good from the outside.

• She rests.

Not just because she’s exhausted — but because she deserves to. Rest is part of how she mothers.

• She sets boundaries.

Not everything gets her energy. She no longer tries to be all things to all people.

• She embraces good enough.

Because perfection is a moving target, and presence is more powerful.

Why This Matters

Our kids don’t need a Supermom. They need a soft one. A present one. A real one.

They need to see us choosing wholeness over hustle. Peace over pressure. Rest over performance.

And we need that too.

Coming Soon: The Lazy Mom’s Guide to Motherhood

This post is part of a special series leading up to the launch of my new book: The Lazy Mom’s Guide to Motherhood — a practical, heartfelt resource for moms who are tired of the performance and ready for peace.

I’m pouring my heart into this one, and I want you to be among the first to get access. Join the early access list here to stay in the loop (and get a free bonus when it drops!) ➔ here.

You don’t have to do it all. You don’t have to do it perfectly. You just have to do it in a way that honors you. Let’s lay down the cape and pick up what actually matters.

Welcome to the Lazy Mom Lifestyle, where you’re already enough.